Do U Believe in Love??

Why people fall in LoVe?

It is a mystery why we fall in LoVe. It is a mystery how it
happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why
some LoVe grows and it is a mystery why some LoVe fails.

You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and
causes, but you will never do anymore that take the life out
of the experience. Just as life itself is more than the sum of
the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body,
LoVe is more than the sum of the interests and attractions
and commonalities that two people share. And just as life
itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the
coming of LoVe must be taken as an unfathomable gift that
cannot be questioned in its ways.

Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life - the gift of
LoVe will come to you in full flower. Take hold of it and
celebrate it in all inexpressible beauty. This is the dream we
all share. More often, it will come and take hold of you,
celebrate you for a brief moment, then move on.

When this happen to young people, they too often try to
grasp the LoVe and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a
gift that just as freely, moves away. When they fall out of
LoVe, or the person they LoVe feels the spirit of LoVe leaving,
they try desperately to reclaim the LoVe that is lost rather
than accepting the gift for what it was, then moving on.They want answers where there are no answers. They
want to know what is wrong in them that makes the other
person no longer LoVe them, or try to get their LoVe to change,
thinking that if some small things were different, LoVe would
bloom again. They blame their circumstances and say that if
they go far away and start a new life, their LoVe will grow.

They try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But
there is no meaning beyond the LoVe itself, and until they
accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.

You need to know this about LoVe, and accept it. You need to
treat what it brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in
LoVe with someone who does not LoVe you, be gentle with
yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. LoVe just didn't
choose to rest in the other person's heart.

If you find yourself someone in LoVe with you but you don't
LoVe him back, feel honored that LoVe came and called at your
door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not
take advantage; do not cause pain. How you deal with LoVe
is how you deal with yourself. All our hearts feel the same
pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in LoVe with another, and he falls in LoVe with you,
and then LoVe chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it nor to
assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a
meaning. You will know in time.

Remember that you don't choose LoVe. LoVe chooses you. All
you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it
comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing,
then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person
who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it
poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can.

There is where many LoVeRs go wrong. Having been so long
without LoVe, they understand LoVe only as a need. They see
their hearts as empty places that will be filled by LoVe, and
they begin to look at LoVe as something that flows to them
rather than from them.

The first blush of new LoVe is filled to overflowing, but as
their LoVe cools, they revert to seeing their LoVe as a need.
They cease to be someone who generates LoVe and instead
become someone who seeks LoVe. They forget that the
secret of LoVe is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to
grow only by giving it away.

Remember this and keep it to your heart. LoVe has its time, its
own season, its own reason for coming and going. You
cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can
only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it
comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or
from the heart of your LoVeRs, there is nothing you can do and
there is nothing you should do. LoVe always has been and
always will be a mystery. BE GLAD THAT IT CAME TO LIVE
FOR A MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE.

If you keep you heart open, it will come again...

How To Live Alone

Living alone is coming out of the closet as more and more Americans find themselves....alone. You can tell the person who lives alone in the supermarket checkout line. They're the ones with a six pack of beer, a roll of toilet paper, and 27 tv dinners.

People live alone for a lot of reasons, mostly depressing. Divorce or a broken romance are the primary reasons. Serious inability to share space is another. Some people are cohabitationally challenged.

When one first finds themselves living alone, especially after being married for years, there are moments of outright terror. What if I die in my sleep? How long before anyone finds my body? Realistically, if you are renting, a month is the maximum, because the landlord will want his rent.

After a while, many people who live alone find that they actually like their singular status. There's no one to tell you to pick up your laundry, put down the toilet seat, throw away the newspapers, or take out the garbage.

The problem is, the laundry piles up, as do the newspapers and the garbage. Many people living alone find themselves increasingly buried in trash. And regarding clothes, there comes a point where there's nowhere to put the new clothes one buys to avoid doing laundry, and finally, one has got to figure out Laundromats.

The best advice for living alone is get a maid. After a while, you will wonder why you never had a maid in the first place. Maids generally put things away where you can't find them, which makes hunting for your stuff a weekly occupation. Keeps your mind off dreary things.

Some people living alone find they really like the peace and quiet, and begin to decorate their residences totally to their liking. There's no one to complain about your collection of Barbie Dolls or antenna balls.

Scientific studies have shown that, contrary to popular belief, people who live alone rarely have company. While the opportunity exists to party your fool head off, the reality is all that garbage piled up in your home means you'd have to keep the place clean to have visitors. Given a choice of cleaning or not having company, most loners prefer not cleaning.

Another good choice while living alone is to get a pet. Having to feed something on a regular basis keeps one from sleeping day and night.

The Internet is a wonderful time waster for loners. You can communicate for hours with total strangers, manufacturing any identity you like, while sitting alone in your underwear drinking beer. And don't underestimate the smutty newsgroups as a substitute for a sex life. Many loners use their singularity as an opportunity to work. Work keeps one's mind off singularity.

One of the greatest advantages of living alone is having a bathroom totally to yourself. You don't know what a joy it is to be able to take an hour long shower, or read the New York Times while sitting on the toilet, with absolutely no one beating on the door asking you to hurry up.

Another advantage of living alone is cable tv. Get as many movie channels as you can afford, and spend all your free time watching every movie ever made. And there's no one to fight you for control of the remote.

The real bummer of living alone is when you are sick. It is really nice to have someone around to minister to your ills...bring you coffee...take your temperature ...hold your hand. If only they wouldn't complain about what a nasty grouch you are when you are sick. What is really needed are hotels for the singular sick. Good looking male or female nurses to attend to you. Lots of cable movie channels.

For many people, living alone for a while cures them of their inability to cohabit with someone. No matter how disagreeable your roommate is, company may be preferred to complete alienation from society. There must be some correlation between how long one has lived unsuccessfully alone, and how successful they are in a subsequent relationship.

And remember, there's always 911 in an emergency, and the local suicide hot line if you are thinking of jumping out your window.

Copyright 1999 by Hugh Holub

me? good as gold?

i took tickle quiz test 51minutes ago and the results... huhuuuu... realli, no joke one..

here's my result:
bonchitz, good as gold

You're all about sunshine and smiles. Sweet as you are, we wouldn't be surprised to come across you sitting in a green meadow, surrounded by adorable baby animals eating out of your hand while your halo shines in the sun. Okay, maybe not. But you are an awfully good person. Sure, you may have dipped your toe in the naughty pool once or twice, but you generally stick to the shallow end, leaving the deep waters to the leather-and-nudie-magazine crowd. It's all well and good to follow the straight and narrow, but remember: It's okay to walk on the wild side once in a while, too. Have a drink. Make a crank call. Go to strip club. Trust us — as long as no one gets hurt, it can be fun to be bad. waaaaaaahh.. beshh!! remember ar... it can be fun to be bad! hmm... good, i'm about to do bad things this coming weekend..

my 'fwoggies' collection..hehee

hmm....like one big family dowh...they're all great and getting 2 know each other... the old ones remain the same.. the nu ones... will be alwayz beautiful...