Lack of forgiving and forgetting in a relationship can result in:
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Irreconcilable differences between people
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Indifference toward one another
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An emotional vacuum in which little or no emotions are shown or shared
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Chronic attacks or angry outbursts
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Addressing or interacting with one another disrespectfully
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One-upmanship: competition as to who can out do whom in terms of eliciting sympathy, compassion, or understanding from outsiders
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Seeking revenge from one another
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Pitting the parties in the relationship against one another through coalitions and taking sides
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Chronic recalling and reminding of past hurts and offenses
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Suspicions about the others' motives, behavior, attitudes, beliefs
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Chronic hostility
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Name calling, belittling and demeaning one another
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Responding to present behavior as if they were past behavior
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Unwillingness to change and/or unwillingness to seek the help necessary to change
