Behaviors Needed to be Able to Forgive and Forget

In order to forgive and forget, you need to practice:

• Letting go of past hurt and pain
• Trusting in the goodness of mankind
• Trusting in the goodness and mercy of God to take over for you
• Letting go and letting God lead you during a hurtful time
• Believing in God's infinite justice and wisdom
• Letting go of fears for the future
• Allowing yourself to be vulnerable to growth
• Taking a risk
• Letting go of hostility and resentment
• Working out your anger
• Reducing competition
• Overlooking slight relapses or steps backward
• Developing a personal spirituality
• Developing an openness to the belief that people can change
• Developing trust in others
• Facing conflict head on, resolving it on the spot
• Open, honest and assertive communication with others concerning hurts, pains, and offenses experienced
• Seeking professional help when necessary to resolve the distance and coldness in a relationship
• Recognizing your part or role in setting up hurtful experiences
• Identifying and replacing the irrational beliefs that block your ability to forgive and forget