Negative Consequences of the Absences of Forgiving and Forgetting

In the absence of forgiving and forgetting, the partners in a relationship run the risk of:

• Continuously being hurt with pain and suffering going unresolved.
• Unresolved guilt and remorse for offenses committed.
• Chronically seeking revenge and paybacks from one another.
• Being caught up in unresolved anger, animosity, and bitterness.
• Defensive, self-protective, and distant behavior.
• Blaming, negative and non-growth oriented behavior.
• Being stuck in a battlefield stockpiled for future offensive attacks.
• Being lost in a festering wound that never realizes the revitalization of healing.
• Secretive and non-communicative behavior.
• Fear over making a mistake or of having the mistake revealed.
• Being overwhelmed by fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of non-approval, low self-esteem, fear of conflict.
• High stress.